Updating post from Reddit.
Hey all, im looking for some advice please. I have a lodger in my house who i'm rent out my spare room too. He's self employed and a nice guy. Always been a bit late with payments like £50 short here and there. Pays the short next week, his rent is due on the 8th of every month. On Saturday morning, I got a message from his daughter saying he had "fell off his bike" and broke his hip, so say. I said if there is anything I can do lemme know, clothes from the house etc. Sunday came and went, no rent payment, dropped him a message, no response but he's been online. Today came, said he would sort it out. 20 mins later, said he would have to do it in 2 halfs and said he needs to claim UC. Truth be told, he's messed me up a bit as I rely on that payment a bit (thus renting my spare room out) and it's a worry every month, if he's going to pay or not.
On one hand, I think I should be asking him to leave but I feel guilty-ish as he's in hospital. Not paid anything, evening a token payment.
He sounds like a pain in the arse.
Yes, he does other little strange stuff. Like he Hoover's up & then leaves the hoover out and doesn't put it away leaves it's all plugged in. Does loads of other weird random stuff that bugs the shit outta me
Sounds like lack of respect. Him being late with payments is his problem, not yours. Unfortunately....
Imagine you said to the bank every month. "Sorry, can I pay next week..."
No bother... But your credit rating tanks.
Yes, it's annoying because he never tells me a few days before. He always avoids me the day it's due then 24 hours later he's like "I don't have it" or can I pay it in two halves or whatever. Driving me bonkers. I don't like the unreliability of it all
Seriously?
Karma is going to come back to bite you here.
He's in hospital, and quite possibly off his tits on pain meds. There's really no need to compound his misery with homelessness.
Hmmm.. not an easy decision but if it's not paying his rent. What do you do?
He's in hospital, not sunning himself on a tropical island.
Think back to a time when someone has shown you a bit of kindness or forbearance, and then decide it's time to pay it forward.
There's absolutely no chance you'll have someone in and paying rent this side of the new year, but you seem keen to make him homeless at the coldest time of year when he can't walk.
Get a grip and stop leaning into the evil landlord stereotype. If the rent is unpaid, take it from his deposit.
In case you're wondering, I'm also a live in landlord.
I think my minds made up.
I hope you have the Christmas you deserve
Look, it’s easy to act all "mouthy" from behind a keyboard, throwing around passive-aggressive remarks without any consequences. You’ve jumped the gun and started being a complete bellend before I’ve even shared my decision. I’m not here for arguments or to deal with someone spoiling for a fight.
At the end of the day, you have to filter out the noise and focus on making the right decision—one that works for everyone involved. And frankly, when I weigh it up, he’s just not worth the stress, the aggravation, or the endless drama. But let’s set the record straight: I’m not throwing him out over Christmas, especially while he’s in hospital. That would be heartless. Instead, I’ve decided to give him a two-month notice period, which I think is more than fair under the circumstances.
My reasoning? I don’t believe he’s going to pay his rent, and I’m prioritising my peace of mind over more emotional, guilt-driven decisions. As a live-in landlord yourself, you should know better. Making choices based on emotions rarely works out well, and my needs are just as important as his. Sometimes, you’ve got to push through the guilt to find a fair solution, and this is mine.
So next time, maybe drop the "keyboard warrior" routine and consider the bigger picture before wading in with your self-righteous attitude.
Amen!
Oh you are one of those horrible landlords after all…. Scum
It's not Op fault that his hip broke near when his rent was due people have to make a living and if your renting someone somewhere to say you'd expect them to pay on time Op did keep his condition in mind but the rent still needs to be paid
As a human, it's a hard decision, but as a landlord, you're doing what's right. I think what stands out to me is the fact he's never really paid on time and relied on your goodwill, which slowly increased to him literally taking the mick. I get he's in hospital, but if he has a daughter, he could have asked if she pays for him whilst he's unable or unwell or struggling, etc. You can't expect your landlord to let you stay and not pay anything.
I think this is exactly it. As a human being I’m like poor guy etc etc. However, his little strange behaviours are driving me bonkers. I told him absolutely no smoking in the house due to asthma in my 14 yr old and I once smelt it very late at night and told him straight does it again, he’s out. So really his little strange behaviours arnt worth it
But of an update. I’ve given him notice and told him he has out to be by 8th Jan. He’s shown his true colours, aggressive, making threats etc.
Separate to that, the roof has leaked in his room (which I didn’t know about) and I’ve been advised it’s not safe for anyone to be in there. Repairs are being completed after Xmas